These mistakes can lead to such thoughts and proclamations as;

Well if I don’t get to organise Christmas lunch then I am not going?
Who does that cow think she is to wear that dress here and look like that at my BBQ?
How is it possible to make them hurt as much as I am right now, I must be able to do something to get back at him?
I am not going and none of my friends will be I will make sure of that!
I am really lonely, I have no friends, no-one that really likes me?
What does it take to get people to do what I want, its my way or the highway?

Tips and techniques that can help;
1. Get angry, so the world functioning as you want it to so you get angry, you hold on to what is not working, what is not happening that you want and you stew on it over and over. You feed the anger, you nurture it and you love it, why? Your ego loves the attention it loves the power that you give it. Yes you give it all this you control this anger. OMG did I say something that really ticked you off, did I just imply that you have a choice and that you are choosing anger? Yes I did, but its not your fault, your ego is pretty powerful and without a consciousness that you have the key to focusing on something other than anger, its sometimes easy to ride the ego. You now know that you choose, not unlike you choose to eat crap all day or to look after your body with good foods, this is also the case for your mind, you choose to feed it negative anger thoughts or healthy, rich, fulfilling thoughts. So what ones thing that could be done differently?
2. Take charge of controlling everything, you will just have to do what I want causes its what makes me happy. You need to make the decisions this can be out of fear as much as power and domination. You fear what may happen if you don’t control the situation, you may be put in a situation that you wont be familiar with or that you have been in before and didn’t like. Controlling everything is hard work and it take a lot of energy to be on guard all the time. Sometimes letting go can seem so far away or so foreign that its just not possible to see any solutions or resolution. Learning relaxation techniques, yoga, meditation, gentle walking, dancing are all fantastic mind nurturing activities. Baby steps towards slowing down, being more grounded, watching the stream not daming it. Just looking for the triggers, the first hint of the need to control , upon this sit with it feel it look at it from the outside in, then try taking slow big deep breaths. Remember this is a survival mechanism, this is your ego , your body protecting you but you may not necessarily need it now, access the situation then evaluate what you need to do, stop reacting in a full war armour, see what can happen.
3. Place expectations on others do things that we want, Why wont they just do what I want, why can they see how important that is to me, what do I have to do to get them to do as I want? Why do you want them to do anything? What is it about others doing what you want that turns you on and off? You gets you to do what they want? How do you react when being manipulated?
4. Get revenge, “Nothing sweeter than revenge”, really does it make it better for you in your relationships to know that your enemy has gone bankrupt or lost their business? Really? If it does then you really do have deep pain, you are